So I came across a post about “rape” and felt since she doesn’t allow replies on it that’d I’d just reply by making my own post, cause there is no way her ask box could give what I need to say justice.
This post basically starts with her agreeing to some other fucking post that if a girl has consensual sex with a guy and regrets it, that is not rape.
I mean, I feel that. Moving on….this is where I began to realize this girl has no idea what she’s talking about.
. In my mind, for rape to be rape, you have to have said ‘no’ and they still continued anyways. That is rape. I have a complete difficult time seeing a drunken hook up as rape. Yes, you were incoherent and yes, he took advantage of that, but if you didn’t say no, I don’t understand how it can be rape. A man doesn’t see it that way, if you’re coming on to him, even if you’re drunk, he thinks you want it. So how in his mind is it not consensual?
First off, a drunk girl can flirt with or “come on to” a man if she wants without intentions of fucking him nor is she required to fuck him as a result. If in your mind “for rape to be rape” a woman has to vocalize the word “no” then why wouldn’t she need to vocalize the word “yes” in order for it to be consensual? Oh and just because a guy may “think” you want it, doesn’t mean you do.
Alright, this next paragraph is actually the full paragraph from her post…not one part could I agree with except the first sentence.
On another note, there are men who are being put into jail for drunken hook ups? That’s ridiculous. If in his mind he wasn’t raping you, then he wasn’t. If his intention is to receive sex from you against your will or coherent mind, THEN IT IS RAPE. Also comes in to play are statutory rape laws, which is completely ridiculous. The law needs to stop being so protective over women and teenage girls. If we consent to sex, it is not rape and it should not be seen as such. If we DECIDE to get wasted and have sex with someone and we do NOT say no, then it is not rape and should not be seen as such. The law is seeing us as victims and that’s why we’re being treated as such. I’m nothing close to a feminist, but I know that if you act like a victim you will be treated like one. If think that you were raped and you were drunk and remember it perfectly and remember consenting, then it was not rape. There is a difference between rape and regret. Society has taught us to be cautious about rape, rather than being responsible about ourselves. If you want to avoid getting raped at a party, DO NOT GET SHIT FACED TO THE POINT THAT YOU CANNOT KNOWINGLY CONSENT TO SEX.
Lets start with this: If in his mind he wasn’t raping you, then he wasn’t.
………..do you know that a majority of rapist always claim that the victim was asking for it or wanting it? Or how about the fact that a majority of alpha male dicks who don’t respect women feel as though they are obligated to sex?
Now, the statutory rape thing, I really like how you mention that statutory rape laws are too overprotective of women while ignoring the fact that statutory rape applies to any one of any sex engaging in sex with someone who’s unable to actually consent due to the developmental processes that occur at different stages of life during adolescence. For instance: a 16 year old boy screwing a 13 year old, or a 16 year old girl screwing a 13 year old boy (yes, boys can be victims to!) or a 16 year old fucking a 13 year old of the same sex. This is indeed rape, for a 13 year old is not able to use the same amount of cognitive thinking skills as the 16 year old is. Now apply this same explanation to say an adult thats 19 and a minor who’s 16, it still applies. I really dont think you even knew what point you were trying make other than attempting to turn it into a women vs society’s over protective standards when in fact it is not limited to women in any way.
I’m emphasizing my next point because seriously?
GETTING DRUNK, SHIT FACED, OR COMPLETELY FUCKED UP AND HAVING A PERSON FUCK YOU KNOWING THAT YOU ARE INDEED ON THE VERGE OF PASSING OUT OR CANNOT KNOWINGLY CONSENT TO SEX MEANS YOU WERE RAPED.
I figured since you decided to use caps lock to victim blame then I would also while I point out the fucking inconsistency of your “logic”. Yes, people shouldnt get too fucked up that they cannot control what is happening, but guess what, it happens & GETTING FUCKED UP IS NOT CONSENT FOR SEX.
The next paragraph after this is basically her inconsistent points about this is rape and that is not and how it’s all womens fault and the poor men are in jail.
My conclusion here is that someone who obviously knows nothing about deductive reasoning, feminism, or the psychological factors of rapist and their victims or that of the developing stages of cognitive thinking should probably not create a post attacking victims of rape.
I did not mean to offend the girl who wrote the post, but I probably did, but this needed to be said.